Are you thinking of being a surrogate? (Are you NOW thinking of being a surrogate?) 😁
I am looking to match with a surrogate in Canada.
I have NINE gene tested embryos in cryostasis at CReATe in Toronto.
A bit about me?
Well, I live by the sea on the English Channel (south coast of the UK). My day job is being a pharmacist and I am doing a qualification in the next few months to become a prescribing pharmacist. Its a caring profession and I enjoy seeing peoples lives improve with the time and attention I can provide.
I love animals and have a kitten Mainecoon called Skye! She likes to play and be fed at 3am in the morning so I just smile and figure this is good training for when I have to do those baby night feeds. I have always had lots of pets and they are an important part of family for me.
I love to sing and act and have been in lots of local productions over the years. If I am not singing around the house then you know something is wrong ;) I am quite a vocally happy person.
Apart from singing I would find relaxation in tinkering on electronics and computers systems (building servers, mining pcs, computer gaming/streaming setups, creating a miniature GPU rental farm etc). I also love doing artsy crafty things and if I see something I like I can generally make it and that
keeps my heart, mind and soul busy. You can see the colourful blocky artwork I made on my Instagram and this google blog.
Why do I want to be a dad?
To be a gentle guide that allows that little soul to grow up to feel empowered knowing they can do what they want to in life and succeed at it. Their interests and their dreams may change and it'll be my job to give them access to experiences, knowledge and support which will drive their love for life. I learnt in my life, that a father should not live their dreams through their child. A father should be there to give the child every chance to succeed emotionally, educationally, socially etc. I would be such a good father. I just know it. I'd be there for them at the end of a long day at school, with warmth and good food and hugs. Focus on getting their homework done and then enjoying a few hours with them going for a walk, cycling, playing computer games etc (I know eventually they'll want to just hang out with their friends and I expect them to develop this independence). I am an only child and always wanted siblings from a very young age. The thought of having young family members around me has always been something I have yearned for, so becoming a father is really my dream now! Summer holidays would be adventure time! They would never be bored.
Why Canada?
I have been to Canada on holidays at least a dozen times, sometimes a few months at a time since I was 8 years old. It is a beautiful country and actually the best place in the world to live in my eyes. Maybe one day I will retire there (a log cabin in a forest near a lake, that is my dream!). Canadians are lovely people and... I ended up going out with one for seven years and he is still now my best friend. My connection with Canada began when I was seven, as I had a nanny who really helped my life at that point, and she emigrated to Canada. I missed her so much that we stayed pen-pals. I visited her a few times and learnt to water-ski, fish and make rafts at her cottage on weekends. You know it was truly a wonderful experience when the memories are vividly crystal clear. I can still, in my minds eye, walk along the lakeshore, feel the sand and gravel under my toes as I looked for crayfish, feel the pine needles and cones and smell the woodlands. That is one of my happiest memories. I want the next stage of my life, becoming a father, (the happiest of experiences) to be connected to Canada.
Embryos?
I have NINE gene tested embryos in CReATe in Toronto. They have been tested for any genetic diseases so this means that it is extremely unlikely the birth will have any of those types of complications.
What criteria must a surrogate have to be accepted by a clinic?
Well that is actually constantly changing. For instance a lot of clinics will now work with surrogates who have no children of their own. This only happened very recently! If you look on my website http://www.garethashley.com you can see a list of the what the agencies / clinics look for in a surrogate.
What criteria do I personally look for in a surrogate?
Kindness, openness, truthful, willing to accept support if they need it. Every intended parent+surrogate match is different. It develops over time. I would like to think that the thing we could both agree on would be this would create a wonderful lifelong bond. I would be so eternally grateful for the gift of making me a dad. Communication is essential.
Who am I? Really.... who AM I?
I am gentle. In fact, that is what "Gareth" means. Gentle or kindness. It describes me perfectly. Being kind is the quality I honour most. That will be, just because it is, the quality that will shine through as an example to my children. I am independent, but only because I find a lot of tasks, skills and chores easy to accomplish. This would make me an amazing parent to provide what they need. I love seeing people accomplish their potential and I hate seeing people held back by circumstances, opinions and emotions that should not have an effect on their lives. I gravitate towards helping people as much as I can and whenever I can. Its a little selfish, because I can feel a warmth and a glow in my soul when I get a chance to connect with people and their dreams. I am a tiny bit nerdy having grown up loving Star Trek and Star Wars in the 80's and 90's but at the same time I am outdoorsy person. As a kid, I got lost in my adventures for many hours amongst the forests, fields of hay and babbling brooks in which I created small dams. I still have my kite that I flew as a teenager on that top field in a good storm! It would lift me a few feet off the ground and I could fly for a bit. Family is incredibly important to me and I want to grow my family. I know now as an adult having siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts is important. I dream, constantly, CONSTANTLY, of hearing that first heart beat, the first kick and that giddy moment when you know your live has changed forever!
So...... could you, maybe, be the surrogate that would look after my embryo and grow it into the baby that would change my life in such wonderful ways? If you are an experienced surrogate you probably don't need to know much but if its now something you are considering for the first time then of course you will have questions!
The intended parent (me) pays for your own solicitor to draft up an agreement with mine.
The intended parent pays all the medical and travel costs associated with the clinic trips.
The intended parents pays for a will to be drawn up for the surrogate.
Should the surrogate be told to stay on bedrest then any lost salary, that is not covered by work or insurances, is reimbursed by the intended parents. This would also include any help needed around the house, help with the kids etc.
Interested? You can reach out to me at baby@garethashley.com
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